Redefining Grief with Herdyne Mercier, LCSW

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The mission of this podcast is to explore all areas of grief by educating through stories and experiences. This podcast is for grievers and those wanting to learn how to support grievers.

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Thursday Jun 18, 2026

What Men Wish Women Knew About Marriage with Kelly Davis | PART 02 | Real Men. Real Grief. Real Healing.

Thursday Jun 18, 2026

Disclaimer: This podcast is intended for educational and informational purposes only and does not establish a therapist-client relationship with Herdyne Mercier, Mercier Wellness & Consulting, or podcast guests. Please seek professional support for your individual mental health needs.

Episode Introduction:

In Part 2 of this powerful conversation, Herdyne Mercier and Kelly Davis continue exploring what it means to heal, rebuild and create a life rooted in purpose after grief. While Part 1 focused on divorce, accountability and navigating difficult transitions, this episode shifts toward restoration, marriage, personal growth and the work required to build healthy relationships after heartbreak.

Kelly opens up about remarriage, blending lives and traditions, learning how to navigate differences and the importance of understanding what both men and women need in relationships. Together, he and Herdyne discuss communication, acts of service, respect, emotional needs and the ways healthy partnerships can help us become better versions of ourselves.

The conversation also explores self-care, personal responsibility, faith, restoration and the courage required to let go of what no longer belongs in your future. Through personal stories and honest reflection, Kelly shares how he's rebuilding his life "brick by brick" and why healing is not about becoming who you used to be... it's about becoming who you're meant to be next.

This episode is a reminder that restoration is a process. Sometimes the foundation remains but everything else must be rebuilt. And that's okay!

Key Takeaways:

Healthy relationships require compromise, communication and mutual respect.
Men and women often communicate needs differently but both want to feel seen, heard, and valued.
Self-care is not selfish; it is necessary for sustainable living.
Restoration happens one step at a time, not all at once.
Personal growth requires releasing old patterns that no longer serve you.
A healthy marriage should encourage growth in both partners.
Acts of service can communicate love in powerful ways.
Faith often provides perspective during seasons of rebuilding.

About Our Guest:

Kelly Davis, widely known as Big Man Kelly, is a respected DJ, radio personality, speaker, father, and community advocate. Through his work in media, music, and public service, Kelly has spent decades connecting with audiences across South Florida while using his platform to inspire, encourage, and uplift others.

Known for his authenticity and heart for people, Kelly continues to use his experiences to spark conversations around healing, resilience, family, faith and personal growth.

Episode Quotes:

"I have to be right first before I can make my environment right." — Kelly Davis

"We need time to ourselves. We need time to recuperate, reset, and recharge our batteries." — Kelly Davis

"Love is an action verb." — Herdyne Mercier

"To be heard is to be seen in the actions that you do." — Herdyne Mercier

Redefining Grief Pearls of Wisdom (P.O.W.) Questions:

If today was your last day on Earth, what would be last words you would like people to remember you by?
"Take a moment and do some self-care.”

When life gets to life-ing, and as you know grief comes in many forms, what song carries you through?
"Holding On" — Gregory Porter

What does restoration look like for you in this season?
"I'm still in the rebuilding process, brick by brick. The foundation is there, but new rooms are being built.”

Episode Time-Stamps:

00:00 Welcome to Redefining Grief

02:15 How Kelly's New Marriage Contributed to His Healing

07:00 Space, Clutter, and How Environment Impacts Well-Being

10:00 Traditional Roles, Modern Relationships, and Marriage Expectations

15:00 How His Wife Inspired Him to Start Two New Businesses

18:00 Why Acts of Service Matter More Than We Realize

21:00 Men Need Flowers Too

24:00 Pearls of Wisdom Questions

31:00 Final Reflections and Closing Thoughts

Book Mentioned:

“Mommy, What’s That Feeling?” by Herdyne Mercier, LCSW - https://herdyne.com/mommy-whats-that-feeling/