Episodes
Tuesday Apr 14, 2020
What Supports Look Like: 3 Tips
Tuesday Apr 14, 2020
Tuesday Apr 14, 2020
What Supports Look Like
Episode Introduction:
Supporting someone who is going through grief is a process that needs to be done the right way. Oftentimes, your advice, prayers, or words of affirmation could not work for them the way they require. How do you make your presence known to someone who needs you in the journey? How do you not police grief but still be there for them? I want you to know that your life still has a purpose. Listen to this episode of Redefining Grief as I help you find your answers on being a support system to a person in grief!
Here are a few golden nuggets that you could start with-
- Just listen to the broken heart; do not try to advise.
- Don’t ask, just do.
- Allow them to cry, express themselves. Do not police grief.
Episode Quotes
- “The feelings that you feel surrounding grief is all normal.” - Herdyne [01:34]
- “If we learn how to embrace grief, I find that you will then seek positive coping skills.” - Herdyne [02:17]
- “I often believe don't allow anyone to police your grief.” - Herdyne [08:33]
- “Allow your grief to be your experience and show your emotions the way you know how. ”- Herdyne [08:36]
This episode is brought to you by our supportive, informative, and complimentary Grief Crusader Community. Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/GriefCrusader
Recommended Resources
- To learn more about Redefining Grief: http://herdynemercier.com
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- For questions about booking or sponsoring the podcast: info@mercierwellness.com
- To schedule a consultation: https://calendly.com/mercier-wellness/consultation or http://herdynemercier.com/contact-me/
- To check out all our past episodes: http://herdynemercier.com/#podcast
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Tuesday Apr 07, 2020
Izmane Jean-Louis: First Heartbreak: Honoring Eugladie "Sha-Sha" Justine
Tuesday Apr 07, 2020
Tuesday Apr 07, 2020
Izmane Jean-Louis
Episode Introduction
Losing a best friend brought Herdyne and Izmane crashing down in life. The emotional shock and sorrow took time to come into acceptance with what was real. In this episode of Redefining grief, Herdyne speaks with her friend and Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Izmane Jean-Louis, about dealing with the death of one of their dearest friends, Shasha.
The last conversation they had with her is still fresh in their memory. Izmane speaks about being in disbelief about the tragic news. She was yet in denial and refused to believe until she saw Shasha in person. “No, I have to see her in person to really be a believer because I still had some kind of hope that my friend isn’t gone.”
Herdyne discusses the five anchors of grief to share how her own experiences of heartbreaks helped her come up with them. She shares thinking about Sasha on her wedding day and how she would be her maid of honor if she hadn’t passed away. “And I know if she was still alive, she will be a part of my matron of honor.”
Izmane talks about their grieving process and how they could not receive enough support to channel their despair. We learn the relevance of properly expressing our sentiments. It took time before Herdyne and Izmane could come to terms with the heartbreak. They realized that there was grace in saying goodbye.
Let’s have open discussions about one’s emotions and reflect on the little memories. Join us on this episode today!
About Our Guest
Izmane Jean-Louis is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor. She received a Bachelor's in psychology from the University of Florida, then went on and pursued a Master of Arts in Counseling. Izmane is currently a full-time doctoral student in Clinical Psychology at Adler University.
Episode Quotes
- “And then I remember me saying “we'll see you at church on Friday night.” And this is what I will never forget her response. She said “if god is willing”. - Herdyne[13:43]
- “Your grief journey is personal. It's like your own DNA.” –Herdyne [20:28]
- ” What people need to understand is that even when you're grieving, there are bits and moments that will cause you to laugh, and there's nothing wrong with that” –Izmane[30:57].
- “If my friend is really dead, I want to be the one to know. I want to be the one to see and to verify” –Izmane[38:12]
- “ We can create new memories mean you thinking about her, honoring her and honoring her life by living our life.” – Herdyne[43:08]
Episode Time-Stamps
- [07:33] - Izmane narrates how she found out about Shasha’s death.
- [23:58] - Herdyne talks about anchors of grief.
- [26:41] - Izmane talks about their grieving process after Shasha’s death.
- [39:38] - Herdyne and Izmane talk about how they honored her friend.
- [43:58] - There is beauty in saying goodbye.
- [47:02] - Importance of going back and reflecting the good memories
Connect with Izmane
This episode is brought to you by our supportive, informative, and complimentary Grief Crusader Community. Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/GriefCrusader
Recommended Resources
- To learn more about Redefining Grief: http://herdynemercier.com
- To advertise on the podcast: herdyne@mercierwellness.com
- For questions about booking or sponsoring the podcast: info@mercierwellness.com
- To schedule a consultation: https://calendly.com/mercier-wellness/consultation or http://herdynemercier.com/contact-me/
- To check out all our past episodes: http://herdynemercier.com/#podcast
Social Media
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Tuesday Mar 31, 2020
Messy On The Outside
Tuesday Mar 31, 2020
Tuesday Mar 31, 2020
Messy On the Outside
Episode Introduction:
My philosophy is that happiness and sadness can coexist. When you create non-judgmental spaces for broken hearts to be seen, heard, and validated, you feel lighter and better. What I want you to feel today is this- that all the messiness that surrounds your life is normal; take your time with it.
I give credit to this episode to my daughter. Why? She drew me a picture a while ago. I want you to picture the drawing with me so that the learning is etched in your mind. She drew a red heart with a blue star in the center of the heart. She added light blue coloring, messy zigzag lines all around the heart. Then, in a black marker, she wrote- Messy on the outside, cute on the inside. How sweet and wise could that sound?
Wisdom is a magical word. It grows with experiences and adds to our judgment. We are all grievers looking at other’s pain from a different lens.
Listen in to the episode today as I guide you through my experience, welcome wisdom into your life, and embrace the beautiful mess you are in.
Episode Quotes
- “Grief is a normal and natural reaction to any loss or change in normalcy. It is my philosophy that happiness and sadness can coexist.” - Herdyne [01:23]
- “It is only when we learn the power of embracing both emotions that living a life full of emotional abundance, and balance can be attainable.” - Herdyne [01:34]
- “When I say wisdom is my favorite word, it is my favorite word because there's so much to gain when you take time to understand or add knowledge or, or insight about a particular situation.” - Herdyne [10:21]
- “Grief is being experienced in regards to the loss of your safety, or normalcy.”- Herdyne [12:36]
- “Peace comes when you tell the truth about how you feel. Peace comes when you anchor down about your heartache. Peace comes when you anchor down with the connections with your community in your people, and truly see you that see you they hear you they understand you. Peace calms my wisdom circle.” - Herdyne [16:54]
This episode is brought to you by our supportive, informative, and complimentary Grief Crusader Community. Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/GriefCrusader
Recommended Resources
- To learn more about Redefining Grief: http://herdynemercier.com
- To advertise on the podcast: herdyne@mercierwellness.com
- For questions about booking or sponsoring the podcast: info@mercierwellness.com
- To schedule a consultation: https://calendly.com/mercier-wellness/consultation or http://herdynemercier.com/contact-me/
- To check out all our past episodes: http://herdynemercier.com/#podcast
Social Media
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Tuesday Mar 24, 2020
Coronavirus and Grief
Tuesday Mar 24, 2020
Tuesday Mar 24, 2020
Coronavirus and Grief
Episode Introduction:
Are you experiencing grief following the news and the events related to the Coronavirus? If yes, know that you are not alone. It was important for me to make you feel understood, and that is why I want to ask you to not isolate.
All of the sadness, frustration, anger, irritation that you are going through is only a result of the trauma you are experiencing. Know that this process is normal, and you are allowed to grieve through it.
But do you get stuck, not realizing how to see the light at the end of the tunnel?
If so, understand that the grief is of the loss of our unmet hopes and dreams. Today, I guide you through 5 anchors that could help you heal-
- The very first anchor is truth. Be honest to yourself about how you're feeling.
- Second, comes the heart anchor. Know that even if your heart is broken, you are not broken.
- My third anchor is called the connection anchor. Just think about being in your community and find a connection with people.
- The next anchor is faith. When times go uneasy and intimidating, have faith in yourself and the Ultimate power above.
- The last anchor is the restoration anchor. It makes you look at the unresolved grief areas in your life. And during this time, please do not walk away from it. Spend some time healing.
Episode Quotes
- “ I strongly believe that isolation is like the weed that I may see in my garden or my grass.” - Herdyne [00:55]
- “Isolation cuts out the human connection and that's where it reminds me of the weed that I sometimes see in my garden.” - Herdyne [01:23]
- “What I learned is the moment I educated myself about that particular situation or about the Coronavirus, my anxiety begins to go down.” - Herdyne [10:13]
- “ Be honest about how you're feeling. ”- Herdyne [19:25]
This episode is brought to you by our supportive, informative, and complimentary Grief Crusader Community. Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/GriefCrusader
Recommended Resources
- To learn more about Redefining Grief: http://herdynemercier.com
- To advertise on the podcast: herdyne@mercierwellness.com
- For questions about booking or sponsoring the podcast: info@mercierwellness.com
- To schedule a consultation: https://calendly.com/mercier-wellness/consultation or http://herdynemercier.com/contact-me/
- To check out all our past episodes: http://herdynemercier.com/#podcast
Social Media
Podcast Hashtag: #RedefiningGrief #TheChiefGriefCrusader #HerdyneMercier #MercierWellness #Grief
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Sunday Mar 22, 2020
Restoration Anchor
Sunday Mar 22, 2020
Sunday Mar 22, 2020
This episode Herdyne Mercier, LCSW will introduce to you the fifth anchor she believes will be the foundation of Redefining Grief. This Restoration Anchor will definitely help you realize that redefining grief is a pivotal anchor in helping you understand that grief is a normal and natural reaction to any loss. The purpose for this podcast is to address the ways people grieve as well as how you can support grievers.
The Redefining Grief Podcast is designed to educate and empower grievers and those who are supporting grievers. As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Grief Specialist, Herdyne Mercier provides practical advice with a clear understanding of grief as well as necessary action steps for grief recovery. While life is not perfect, it still must be lived. Therefore, it is necessary to have the emotional tools to help us navigate the grief and losses we are sure to encounter. Episodes are released weekly on Tuesday mornings.
For questions about booking or sponsoring the podcast, email us at info@mercierwellness.com.
If you’d like to schedule a consultation, contact us at the link below.
https://calendly.com/mercier-wellness/consultation
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#RedefiningGrief #MercierWellness
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Tuesday Mar 17, 2020
Faith Anchor
Tuesday Mar 17, 2020
Tuesday Mar 17, 2020
This is my truth. I question God. "Why me?", "Why now?", "Are you even listening?" I felt like he was not listening to my prayer requests. My faith took a hit and my emotions spiriual out of control. Fear, doubt, worry, and hopelessness took the place of faith. Those were some hard times. I am happy to to report. I tapped back in to my faith anchor and life is much better, not easy but better. I pray this episode bring you the clarity you need regarding your faith and grief through my personal life experiences and lesson.
The Redefining Grief Podcast is designed to educate and empower grievers and those who are supporting grievers. As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Grief Specialist, Herdyne Mercier provides practical advice with a clear understanding of grief as well as necessary action steps for grief recovery. While life is not perfect, it still must be lived. Therefore, it is necessary to have the emotional tools to help us navigate the grief and losses we are sure to encounter. Episodes are released weekly on Tuesday mornings.
For questions about booking or sponsoring the podcast, email us at info@mercierwellness.com.
If you’d like to schedule a consultation, contact us at the link below.
https://calendly.com/mercier-wellness/consultation
Find us on social media:
#RedefiningGrief #MercierWellness
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Tuesday Mar 10, 2020
Tuesday Mar 03, 2020
Heart Anchor
Tuesday Mar 03, 2020
Tuesday Mar 03, 2020
Have you had your heart broken? Do you feel loss and confused about your feelings? Have you been praying for a sign and what happens next. Look no further.
This episode Herdyne Mercier, LCSW will introduce to you the second anchor she believes will be the foundation of Redefining Grief. This Heart Anchor will definitely help you realize that redefining grief is a pivotal anchor in helping you understand that grief is a normal and natural reaction to any loss. The purpose for this podcast is to address the ways people grieve as well as how you can support grievers.
The Redefining Grief Podcast is designed to educate and empower grievers and those who are supporting grievers. As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Grief Specialist, Herdyne Mercier provides practical advice with a clear understanding of grief as well as necessary action steps for grief recovery. While life is not perfect, it still must be lived. Therefore, it is necessary to have the emotional tools to help us navigate the grief and losses we are sure to encounter. Episodes are released weekly on Tuesday mornings.
For questions about booking or sponsoring the podcast, email us at info@mercierwellness.com.
If you’d like to schedule a consultation, contact us at the link below.
https://calendly.com/mercier-wellness/consultation
Find us on social media:
#RedefiningGrief #MercierWellness
@HerdyneMercier
@HerdyneMercier
Tuesday Feb 25, 2020
Truth Anchor (Truth Is)
Tuesday Feb 25, 2020
Tuesday Feb 25, 2020
Truth Is
This episode Herdyne Mercier, LCSW will introduce to you the first anchor she believes will be the foundation of Redefining Grief. This Truth Anchor will definitely help you realize that redefining grief is a pivotal anchor in helping you understand that grief is a normal and natural reaction to any loss. The purpose for this podcast is to address the ways people grieve as well as how you can support grievers.
The Redefining Grief Podcast is designed to educate and empower grievers and those who are supporting grievers. As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Grief Specialist, Herdyne Mercier provides practical advice with a clear understanding of grief as well as necessary action steps for grief recovery. While life is not perfect, it still must be lived. Therefore, it is necessary to have the emotional tools to help us navigate the grief and losses we are sure to encounter. Episodes are released weekly on Tuesday mornings.
For questions about booking or sponsoring the podcast, email us at info@mercierwellness.com.
If you’d like to schedule a consultation, contact us at the link below.
https://calendly.com/mercier-wellness/consultation
Find us on social media:
#RedefiningGrief #MercierWellness
@HerdyneMercier
@HerdyneMercier
Wednesday Feb 19, 2020
My Story. My Purpose.
Wednesday Feb 19, 2020
Wednesday Feb 19, 2020
My Story, My Purpose
Episode Introduction:
"If you do not deal with grief, the grief will deal with you"- Herdyne Mercier
Have you had childhood experiences that changed your life forever? Most of us quite have. Back when I was a kid, I found funerals to be a very difficult time for people. I could see church members not crying, individuals trying to stop whoever cried and giving them lessons. I wanted to keep going back to funerals because, indirectly, though, I was creating the don't-do lists inside my mind, making myself aware of all that brought you to that state of pain.
Somewhere down the lane, I realized I had to keep going back to this. I share with you today how the seed of helping others going through pain was planted in my mind. Listen in!
My life's purpose is not to be perfect, not to have all the answers but to walk on water by living in faith.
The Redefining Grief Podcast is designed to educate and empower grievers and those who are supporting grievers. As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Grief Specialist, Herdyne Mercier provides practical advice with a clear understanding of grief and necessary action steps for grief recovery. While life is not perfect, it still must be lived. Therefore, it is necessary to have the emotional tools to help us navigate the grief and losses we are sure to encounter.
This episode is brought to you by our supportive, informative, and complimentary Grief Crusader Community. Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/GriefCrusader
Recommended Resources
- To learn more about Redefining Grief: http://herdynemercier.com
- To advertise on the podcast: herdyne@mercierwellness.com
- For questions about booking or sponsoring the podcast: info@mercierwellness.com
- To schedule a consultation: https://calendly.com/mercier-wellness/consultation or http://herdynemercier.com/contact-me/
- To check out all our past episodes: http://herdynemercier.com/#podcast
Social Media
Podcast Hashtag: #RedefiningGrief #TheChiefGriefCrusader #HerdyneMercier #MercierWellness #Grief
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/herdynemercier/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/HERDYNEMERCIER
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